I decided that I would like to try hypnobirthing for my first baby. A friend had a good experience with it. I was also advised that considering my situation (without partner) a birthing partner might be good so I searched around for a Doula in my area - not really knowing much about either doulas (birthing partners) or hypnobirthing. I wanted somebody to help talk me through what to expect from labour, how to achieve the labour I wanted and to be a moral support in the birthing room - which I felt was very important.
To my massive good luck and much happiness, I found Pat Wood on the Doula UK website. She was amazing.
I contacted her via email and we arrange to meet over a cuppa at my house. Firstly she explained what hypnobirthing was all about, very clearly and very realistically. She very kindly lent me books so I could read more and also lent me a hypnobirthing CD that she had made AND one from another expert. She visited me at my home at times that suited me and was so knowledgeable, personable and professional that she immediately put me at ease.
I found her very easy to talk to and because she had been a midwife previously for many years i felt she knew her stuff and she did.
But not only was the 'build up' to the birth actually enjoyable with Pat - I felt that she was going to be great as a support at the birth. She was.
My mum came with me to the hospital and we had arranged to meet Pat there. From the moment we arrived my mum 'handed over' arrangements to Pat and we felt comfortable with this. It allowed my mum to take a back seat and not worry about anything and we felt totally relaxed in Pat's care.
During the labour and birth she was present the whole time. I had asked for the midwife to speak to Pat rather than myself and so Pat relayed info to me and it meant i could totally relax and concentrate on instructions from only 1 person. Which was a major plus. She read to me when I wanted her to, she played me relaxing music when I asked and both my mum and I felt we were in the best possible hands.
I had the birth I wanted, following the hypno techniques all the way. It was short, natural, relaxing and beautiful. And I credit that to Pat. She was the reason I was able to achieve this type of birth and I would recommend her a thousand times to anyone.
As birth partner for my daughter I was sceptical about her decision to also allow a complete stranger to be a part of this very personal process.
Now, in retrospect, I am in complete awe of our doula. I received calm advice prior to going to the hospital and once there was able to rely on someone my daughter had grown to trust. I truly believe had we not had our doula my daughter would have ended up with consultant intervention instead of which she was able to follow her hypnobirth plan in a quiet and relaxed atmosphere that involved no medication at all. Thank you for making this a wonderful, calm and relaxed (for me ) experience.
Primary Care Quality Development Manager